7 Habits That Are Hurting You
Habits define you. When you tap into your flow and know how your day is going to look like, it’ll unlock power to make confident decisions.
Think about it. Habits become useful as they automate many activities in our lives and free up our minds so that we can concentrate on higher level activities.
“Our character is basically a composite of our habits. Because they are consistent, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character.” ―Stephen Covey
Good habits serve to create routine, order and efficiency. As bad habits, lock us into negative patterns of behavior. Our brain is very powerful and is constantly learning patterns in our daily lives to save mental energy. Sadly, our Subconscious mind can’t differentiate between good or bad habit. Anything repeated over time can become our habit.
Learn the habits that are hurting you:
Second guessing yourself
Stop replaying events and wish for “do-overs” second-guessing is robbing you of joy and self-esteem. Learn to build up your trust with yourself. Sometimes we feel a lack of confidence in our judgment, as we begin to doubt our own perception, which makes us feel the need for approval.
Playing it Safe
While playing it safe may seem like the best thing to do, but it actually may be hindering you from getting ahead. Our bodies love to be comfortable, but be a risk taker and be willing to rock the boat. Get vulnerable and share your story. Don’t let society’s notion of what’s possible limit you.
Doubting your own dreams
We give up before investing the necessary effort that leads us to a successful outcome. Stop the self-doubt habit of waiting to do things when we feel more confident. The action of confidence comes first and the after effect is the feeling of confidence. Today stop saying “what if I can’t” instead try thoughts like “This is challenging, but I’m learning and with effort I will get better”.
Fishing for attention
Nothing kills credibility faster than the words “look at me”. We, all have various degrees of attention we seek. We are all social creatures, but reflect on how you are interacting. You don’t always need to be at the center of attention. Draw a fine line between when to ask and when to give.
Being overly critical of yourself
We consciously try to be the best at the things we do. This analysis is healthy as a self-tool to measure our progress. What we don’t realize is how critical we can become and instead of helping, we devalue ourselves. What I’ve come to realize is, often we will feel as if everyone is judging us all the time because we are too busy judging ourselves.
Allowing pessimism feed your procrastination
Constant distraction today slow us down from pursuing what we want. Not only is the physical world slowing us down, our mind is also a barrier feeding procrastinator. We waste too much time with our heads down low, heart closed, never giving an opportunity for new experiences. When you wake up, you have two options, go back to sleep to dream or wake up to chase that dream. Transformation does not happen overnight, but when it happens, it’ll be worth it.
Tolerating negative people
Negative people harm your confidence and self-esteem. Being constantly nagged about the decisions you’ve made or forced to do things others want to do to please them. Over time negative people will affect you as a person, allowing you to be less of an optimistic person. Realize negative people hurt our self-development. Saying goodbye is one of the most painful ways to resolve this issue, but it might be necessary.
“You spend your whole life stuck in the labyrinth, thinking about how you’ll escape one day, and how awesome it will be, and imagining that future keeps you going, but you never do it. You just use the future to escape the present.”
― John Green, Looking for Alaska
Investing in good habits is crucial to your well being as habits help you put your time to good use. Good habits will free up your mind from unnecessary thinking or things that are hurting you. I think you owe yourself at least that much given this world if full of distractions.
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